Financial statement question

Hello. I have a two part question regarding filing out of my financial statement and splitting of a pension. A year ago my spouse (of 26 years) said she wanted a divorce and moved out. Both of our kids are adults, over 18. A few months after my spouse moved out I met an awesome woman at the dog park and after 6 more months have moved in with her. My ex has delayed the whole separation/divorce proceedings and even after reaching an agreement through joint mediation, continues to delay getting anything done. She has now hired a lawyer and refuses to honor the signed mediation agreement (which I understand she doesn't have to). My first question is when I fill out my financial statement (FLA 13.1) do I include the full cost of the household expenses (rent, utilities, food...) as well as my new partners income (and amount contributed to the household) or do I only list my share of the expenses and exclude my partners income. Second question is my ex-spouse has a Provincial government pension which we have received the Family Law Value from the plan administrator. Her lawyer has hired an actuary to estimate the tax payable on the total amount accumulated during our 26 years of marriage. He calculated the tax on the full amount then reduced it and then split it 50/50. Is this correct or is the amount listed by the plan administrator the final figure.